Our role when a loved one is in pain

We all intend to shield our loved ones from disappointments, hardships and challenges in their life. Some of us believe their hurt is our hurt and we find it unbearable to see them suffer. Safeguarding family and friends in our different roles may be tempting. But the moment we create negative emotions, we are only adding pain to their existing pain, and depleting them further instead of healing. Whenever family or friends are in pain, or when they make a mistake, we feel angry or hurt. They need us to be stable at those moments, but we react. We lose awareness that they are already in pain, and our reactions are hurting them further.

Follow these steps to be a source of strength to someone who’s in pain:

1. When someone shares their pain, pause, step back and detach yourself from the heavy vibrations in that scene. Listen calmly. Your stability becomes their strength.
2. Even when someone makes a mistake, he inherently has the knowledge of rights and wrongs. He may only lack the power to implement what is right. Your role is to empower him and not just advice. Radiate thoughts of love and words of encouragement. Show him his strengths, highlight his virtues to others, and envelop him in blessings.
3. When emotionally detached, you become a counsellor and see different perspectives. Your mind thinks clearly. Your compassion helps you choose right responses.
4. Bless them with highest-vibration thoughts and words. This is their empowerment.

Your stability goes a long way in healing and helping people.

Let’s experience this affirmation during mindful meditation (in subconscious state / Alfa level) of our role when people are in pain.

Sit straight, but relaxed; gently close your eyes. Pay attention to your breath at the nostrils. Effortless breathing. Repeat in your mind…

I am a lovable being …

I am emotionally independent …

People’s behaviours do not influence me …

I am stable always … irrespective of the vibration of people and situations …

If someone is in pain …

I listen to them …

I understand their behaviour …

I create the vibrations they need …

My vibrations heal them … their thoughts …

Their feelings shift … they are happy … healthy … successful.

Gently open your eyes.