The Most Dangerous ‘Threat’ to Our Dear Ones: When Worry Confused With Concern

“One of the most incorrect beliefs that we have acquired since childhood is that to worry is to care, worrying is caring”, says Shree Jineshwar Suri Maharaj while addressing the children of Queen Ratna Devi of Raja Shree Karan of Delwara.

AccoJinchandra Suri - founder of Khartar Gachhrding to Karam Chand Vanshho-Kirtankam Kavyam, written in 1593 AD by Jaysom – “After Rana Shree Karan’s death in the battle, his wife Queen Ratna Devi along with her four sons – Samdhar, Udharam, Haridas and Veerdas, went to her pihar (parent’s place) at Khedinagar (Gujarat) for their education and proficiency in art of warfare. Samdhar, a Deora Chauhan, was the first man in his genealogy to convert to Jainism from the saint and scholar of Khartargachh, Shree Jineshwar Suri Maharaj.

A very common example of the above belief which we all have gone through sometime or the other is when we are late by just a few minutes in coming back home from office. On reaching home, we are asked a thousand questions by our family members, perhaps our parents or spouse or children about where we have been and why hadn’t we bothered to call and also about another thousand negative assumptions they had made in that much time.

Why? Had they been worried for us? We are normally surprised with the fact they are worrying, because 9 out of 10 times we are late because of a not so serious reason, but our family members explain that we were worrying for you because we care for you. But worrying is not caring.

Worry is fear or anxiety and care is love or concern, they are two opposite emotions which can never exist together at the same time.

Suppose the class teacher of your child (we take the example of your son) calls up and says that while playing in the school playground, your son has injured himself. She doesn’t explain much but says there is nothing to worry. She requests you to come and pick him up from the school.

At this point of time your son is radiating his own spiritual energy which is most probably the negative energy of fear, stress, anxiety and sorrow (although the teacher has informed you that he is fine). At the same time he is also picking up your subtle spiritual or mental energy.

You are driving to his school to pick him up. At this point of time, you only have a rough idea of what situation he is in exactly at that moment because you are physically far away from him. Guessing about the exact situation is making assumptions and is a waste of your mental energy.

If you make negative assumptions i.e. you worry and are scared, then you are sending him the same vibrations of fear, a negative energy, which he is going to pick up and it is not going to empower or help him in anyway but is more likely to weaken and disturb him and even disturb you in your driving.

You have been told that there is nothing to worry but still you know he is in a slightly difficult emotional situation and only he knows how he will come out of it. What will help him? He needs your support, but what will support him the most – we are talking about subtle support, because you are going to take some time to reach the school and provide him physical support? Your negative vibration of fear which you may mistakenly call concern or care as you imagine something bad has happened? Or the positive vibrations of your unconditional love and your good wishes, which is true concern or care?

What will you send him to support him from far away? Worry vibrations or the vibrations of love in the form of your good wishes for them? Vibrations of love will keep you also in a positive state as you drive through the city. Besides, what is care or concern? It is you sending your positive inner spiritual light to help another and worry is definitely not that.

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